Explaining Wedding Invitation Etiquette

wedding invitation etiquette Wedding invitation etiquette can provide a wonderful guideline for writing and communicating the mood or style specific wedding you have planned, as well as outlining the scheduled details that will bring the event to life.

The good news is that while there are quite a number of sources and periodicals available to help with this, they can end up being more overwhelming than comforting with regards to all the do’s and don’ts.

So instead of getting bogged down and intimidated before the process even begins, consider a more peaceful approach and use these tips for making wedding invitation etiquette less complicated and more user friendly.

In the interest of keeping it simple, let’s highlight the types of things that the wedding invitation should address.

Names of invitees, time, date, location, attire, and directions are all essential pieces of information to include to help educate your guests as to how the day will progress as well as the type of day they can expect to be a part of.

If you have decided upon a formal gathering a main envelope and a response envelope are the expected method.

If you are having more of an informal gathering the invitation can be conveyed and responded to in a variety of different means that include a free form handwritten request, e-mail, or even telephone.

Because this is the first opportunity to share your celebration with guests, use it to create the storyboard you wish to put forth.

Somewhere in the body of the invitation, provide information about the dress code and, if you have out of town guests, take advantage of the save the date card which can be sent out two to three months ahead of time and will help make the process of coordinating travel plans much less stressful.

With regards to sending separate invites for the ceremony and reception, it is only necessary if you are having two separate destinations that may require more in-depth information than one card can accommodate. _________________________________________________________________


When debating the relevance of gift giving and registry, adding an additional card or placing this information on the back of the main invite is acceptable, and the same applies to any poem or prose.

A separate wedding card for guests to RSVP will provide a more accurate head count and is a must have for this situation.

How to name and addresses the wedding invites is a primary concern in order to maintain appropriate etiquette.

Full names and complete spelling out of all details are required for a formal invite, and married couples should be addressed as Mr. and Mrs. with the man’s name first.

If the couple is divorced it is as simple as using Miss instead, but with regards to which of the parents to list first if they are divorced, offer priority to the parent that is responsible for any financial contributions.

If all parties would rather be included and no offense will come of it, then list everyone.

Unmarried couples will have the man’s name come before the mates with Mr. and Miss, and couples with children (if children are in your plans) will include the full name of the parents and first names of children below.

Save the “and guest” for single invitees so they have that option if they choose to bring a companion.

The term etiquette is really just a fancy word to convey “manners” and as such, wedding invitation etiquette can end up being a chore with a list that can overwhelm even the most upbeat and outgoing bride and groom.

Taking the complicated out, and replacing it with straightforward answers that can be easily understood and followed will bring sanity, and ensure that all aspects of the special day, including the planning, remain special and stress free.

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